Authentic Happiness
by Martin E. P. Seligman, Ph.D. Free Press 2002
Dr. Martin Seligman’s
credentials are impressive, He is a psychology professor at the
University of Pennsylvania, former president of the American Psychological
Association and author of twenty books.
But his enduring legacy
will be his founding, in 1998, of a new scientific movement called
Positive Psychology. He noted that, for 50 years, psychologists
had been studying pathology and mental illness. Fortunately, a huge
amount of progress was made, especially in the area of depression.
But very little time and effort were devoted to understanding positive
emotions and finding ways to build on them. He set out to change
that. He pulled together an impressive group of his esteemed colleagues
and formed the Positive Psychology Network, becoming its director.
Authentic Happiness is his fascinating and inspiring look at the
research into what makes us happy and what we can do to enhance
our feelings of well-being.
This book is very easy
to read. It includes leading edge research, self-rating surveys,
practical suggestions and personal anecdotes – such as a story
about Dr, Seligman’s five-year old daughter telling him to
“stop being such a grouch” (a tip of the hat to Oscar
on Sesame Street?) when they were gardening together. There’s
something for everyone – even a section titled “Why
are Lawyers So Unhappy?” It talks about work, love, health,
money and devotes an entire chapter to “Raising Children”.
Here are some of the
findings that caught my attention:
• the afterglow of “pleasurable” activity (hanging
out with friends, watching a movie or eating a hot fudge sundae)
paled in comparison with the effects of performing an act of kindness.
• We each have a personal set range for our level of happiness,
to which we return after the effects of life events dissipate. For
example, winners of major lotteries are no happier several months
later than they were before their windfall.
• Objective good health is barely related to happiness; what
matters is our subjective perception of how healthy we are.
• Money has surprisingly little effect on happiness once your
basic needs are met – and people who are more materialistic
are less happy.
The book talks about
happiness in three time frames: satisfaction about the past –
gratification and forgiveness are important here; optimism about
the future – optimists and pessimists have different explanatory
styles regarding good and bad events; and happiness in the present
– pleasure is not the same as gratification. Most importantly,
it explains how to increase your happiness in all three time frames
by learning new skills and building on others (what he calls “signature
strengths”). It makes for great reading.
The book is warm, engaging
and practical. I enjoyed it thoroughly and highly recommend it.
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